It sucks when someone you have feelings for doesn’t share those feelings; it happens to women all the time, too. We hear “I just want to be friends” and “you’re like one of the guys” and “you’re like a sister to me” just as often. But you’ll never hear a woman complain that guys just don’t appreciate a Nice Girl because we’re taught it’s our own fucking fault when we’re rejected—we aren’t pretty enough or thin enough or sexy enough, we weren’t sexual enough or were too sexual, we put out too much or too little or too soon or not soon enough, we didn’t wear our hair the right way or our skirt the right length, we’re “too tomboyish” or “too butch” or “too feminine”, or we’re “not their type”, or we’re otherwise not good enough in various ways to entice the man to grace us with his affection.
But when we’re not interested in someone, we’re vilified. We’re the bitch that lead them on, the bitch who let them buy us dinner but didn’t want to date them, the bitch who doesn’t appreciate a nice guy, the bitch they were nice to and then got nothing in return from.
And, frankly, fuck those people. Showing interest in me, being friendly with me, getting close to me, or eating a meal with me (even if they paid for it) doesn’t obligate me to open my heart or my legs. And anyone who doesn’t appreciate my friendship sure as hell doesn’t deserve my love or my pussy.Unknown (via exoticwild)
Are you fucking kidding me? Apparently Neil Pattrick Harris is slated to play a transwoman in an upcoming Broadway play.
Jesus. Christ. Don’t they understand that we exist and can play the role better, and more true to life?!
WHY THE FUCK ARE CIS MEN STILL GETTING TRANS WOMAN ROLES
AT THE VERY LEAST GIVE THE ROLE TO A CIS WOMAN BECAUSE WE ARE WOMEN
You do know that Neil Patric Harris is gay right, not cis
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Anonymous asked: What are you thoughts on pornography, both as a personal commodity and an industry, and do you think we should keep it, try to abolish it or some other option?
(Before we even go into this, I would like to make it very clear that I support all sex workers, from those who do it out of necessity to those who choose sex work as a path of enjoyment. Nothing I am about to say reflects my opinions on the lives or choices of the individuals who perform within the porn industry.)
It is v. well known that I am sex critical & even sex negative a lot of the time, which certainly extends to the porn industry. I find it exploitative, I believe that it fosters unhealthy and even abusive ideals of sex/relationships/sex within relationships, I believe that it blurs or even removes the boundaries of consent, regardless of what people say I believe that it is a sexist industry that pretends to foster female empowerment whilst continuing to put women in compromising situations in the name of getting people off.
I am critical as to how we know those performing in porn, men and women, consented to what is going on in the scene. I have read the stories of far too many women who say they were subjected to anal sex without warning & without lubrication, thus without consent; thus, hundreds/thousands of people are jacking off to rape. I refuse to support even the possibility of this occurrence.
(There are exceptions to every rule. I do not deny the existence of happy people who work in porn & enjoy their time in porn. I think that’s fantastic! I do not shame those who participate in porn and I only hope they have a healthy experience! I adore Sasha Grey & the way she takes control of her sexuality, for example. I just find it very hard to ignore testimonials from prominent porn actors such as Jenna Jameson, Linda Lovelace & countless more, who do not have positive things to say on the industry/their time in it.)
I do not watch pornography, I never have and I never will. It makes me incredibly uncomfortable that my partner still (I assume) chooses to watch it occasionally, not because it threatens me/our relationship but because it pains me to think that someone I love is contributing to something I feel so strongly against.
Porn isn’t going anywhere. No angry tattooed chicks on the internet are gonna change that; it’s a billion dollar industry, just like cigarettes. Harmful as they may be, they’re here to stay.
Also, I would never advocate for the eradication of porn/the porn industry, because then thousands of sex workers would not be able to support themselves/their families and I am not about that. How about we push to make it safer, push to make it more realistic, push to have women running the show, etc. That would be great.
I see posts like this and it makes me think that maybe I’m not the only person here who is fighting a battle against the porn industry, because sometimes it seriously feels like me against the world (especially with the onslaught of constant abuse I get). And then I see things like this and I’m like ‘yaaaassssss’